Planning a wedding is expensive and can be draining. It can add stress beyond belief at times and make you encounter things you've never had to encounter at any other point in your life. Like, seriously, we deserve some sort of medal for pulling this stuff off!
Because my amazing husband was so supportive throughout the planning and made so many sacrifices to give me the wedding of my dreams, I wanted to thank him in some way. (At the end of this blog post I will also share one other way I surprised Chase at our rehearsal dinner!) When starting to research ideas, I saw tons of Pinterest posts that listed some essentials for making a gift box for a groom on the wedding day. I was pretty disappointed in what I found because of the lack of diverse ideas. Pretty much every article said to give him socks with a saying on the bottom of them, a cigar, ring pops?! (yes, the candy...), and several other little things. These just weren't things that I connected with or that were Chase's style. Because of this, I came up with my own list and wanted to share them with you! These nine ways to surprise your groom on the wedding day are simple yet thoughtful ways to let him know you love and appreciate him and are excited to be taking this next step in your lives together!
9 Thoughtful Ways to Surprise Your Groom on Your Wedding Day!
1. Include one or more of your groom's favorite snacks. But go a step further! Because I didn't think of this until the last minute, I wasn't able to be as thoughtful as I would have liked. One of my husband's favorite snacks is beef jerky. We've talked about my grandpa making it for me when I was a kid and how it's my absolute favorite, but Chase has never tried it. It would have been neat to have had my grandpa's homemade jerky instead of a prepackaged bag. Having a bit of meaning in the little things could be a really cool thing for your groom!
2. Incorporate your honeymoon! If you're going on a honeymoon, pick up a little book about the location you're going to and put it in your groom's gift box. This could be as simple as a map of the resort, or a type of candy that is made in the country you're going to. Another idea is having a secret excursion planned for the honeymoon that he knows nothing about until the day of the wedding. This could be a range of different things, depending on the location you're going to. You could book a kayaking trip, a brewery tour or a massage. Having that to look forward to could give him an extra *pep* in his step for the rest of the day!
3. Send him a photo of yourself before getting ready - but use an instant camera! This one is pretty specific because not everyone owns an instant camera. For those who do, or who know someone who does, it's a cute little add-in to the gift box. On the morning of your wedding, before you start getting ready, have a bridesmaid snap a photo of you with the instant camera! Once it develops, place the photo on top of the box you've made and have someone deliver it to your groom! Then, years down the road, you guys will see that cute little instant photo hanging out in the front of your wedding album and... in come the *feels.* If you don't have an instant camera but want one, I recommend this one! We actually used ours in our wedding ceremony and took it on our honeymoon!
4. Bottled water. Simple!
5. Write him a note- but wait until the night before or the morning of the wedding! I knew I was going to do this one well before the day of our wedding so I ordered a personalized card from Etsy in advance. It took real restraint not to write in it a few weeks before the wedding when everything was feeling more real. But, I'm really glad I waited to write in it the day before the wedding because the happiness and excitement I felt the day before was on another level. Wait to write your note until the night before or the day of your wedding and I promise you won't be disappointed.
I ordered my card from this Etsy shop.
6. Schedule for him to have breakfast in bed! This one works really well if you're staying at a hotel the weekend of your wedding. Calling room service and ordering his favorite breakfast (or just any breakfast!) is super thoughtful and honestly, I would be stoked to wake up to breakfast that I didn't have to cook myself.
7. Have his favorite coffee delivered to him that morning! If your fiance is into coffee, this one could be awesome! Plan ahead with a groomsmen or family member to pick up a coffee for your guy and take it to him without him knowing!
8. Make arrangements for him to do something fun while you are getting ready! Plan ahead and make arrangements for the groom and groomsmen to do something fun while you and the bridesmaids are getting ready! Ideas I came up with are playing a round of golf, spending time at an arcade, driving laps at a local bumper car place, or hanging out and playing games on the X-Box. Whatever the activity, I think it's important to have everything handled for him ahead of time as not to give him unsolicited tasks on his wedding day. If it's too expensive for you to cover everyone (like the groomsmen), text the guys ahead of time and let them know you're planning a surprise for him, that way the guys are financially prepared.
9. Make a video to send him! I like this option if writing isn't your strong suit. Instead, or even in addition to the note, record a video talking to him before you start getting ready and send it to him when you know he's alone and can give it his attention.
I hope you're able to use some of these ideas in your own ways for your groom! If you have any other ideas, share them with us in the comments below! I'd love to hear from you :) If you plan to make a gift box or are going to try to surprise your groom on the wedding day, let us know how you plan to pull it off! Good luck and happy planning!
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As a wedding photographer, I've experienced a plethora of situations with my bride's, ranging from total Bridezilla's to zenful Bridechilla's. Now that i'm planning my own wedding, I've begun to uncover what it is that can make a bride Hulk out on her wedding day. At the same time, I've learned how some brides are completely relaxed and living in the moment of their wedding day. I want to share with you what i've learned to be the best way to ensure your wedding day is as chill as possible, leaving you with a clear mind that allows you to soak up the day and all of it's glory. After all, you've spent countless hours running errands, addressing envelopes, picking your wedding parties attire, probably tanning, working out, and we won't even get into the amount money you also probably spent. So, now that i've given you complete anxiety, let's focus on what you CAN do to prepare for the day of your wedding to guarantee you and your future hubs have the most amazing day of your lives.
ORGANIZATION. Say it out loud. OR-GAN-EYE-ZAY-SHION. We as brides-to-be have to stay organized. For starters, and in general, it's proven that organized people spend less money on unnecessary and avoidable expenses like *cough*cough* paying a late fee because you misplaced your electric bill and somehow forgot to make the payment. Or you forget to pay a parking ticket so now you have to pay an extra $35. for a $25. ticket. I may or may not be speaking from experience.
We've all been there a time or two. Staying organized isn't all that easy, especially when you're a busy human, and most of us are. However, though not easy, it is most definitely worth it.
I could do an entire blog series on how to become more organized in your everyday life but that's not the topic of this blog. If you're a hot, sloppy mess and cringe at the word "organization," please know you're not alone. And there is hope for you in the world of being more organized. I promise. To stay organized as a bride, you need to do a few key things:
1. Pick one of the following: a folder, binder, specific drawer, a box, a nook in your closet, etc. to keep ALL of your wedding related contracts and papers together. You'll know right where to look when you need to access that information about what your cake maker specified as their non-negotiable's.
2. Set reminders in your phone to alert you when an upcoming payment is due to certain vendors. You don't want to lose your booking with anyone you've already paid a deposit to.
3. Write in the Notes app on your phone where you put all of your wedding planning documents so that when you're scrambling and can't remember where you put them, your phone will tell you.;) Okay, so this one sounds extreme, but someone out there will use it.
Now that we've gotten the basics of staying organized as a bride-to-be down, let's move on to the next step to make certain your special day runs as smoothly as possible. Good news! It's a bit more entertaining than the previous three steps.
Having a wedding website is becoming more and more popular and I am 110% in understanding the reasons. In previous years, couples having a destination wedding were the primary people using wedding websites but that idea is now outdated. But for those of us not having a destination wedding, what's the point of making a wedding website? Good question. I didn't know the benefits either until researching the best hosting site for my own wedding website. In keeping with the theme of organizing, wedding websites allow you to stay organized all the while keeping your VIPs, family and friends in the know. Now, each site is going to be slightly different and have a range of different capabilities as far as customizing your site. And for you and I, I've done the research and found what I believe to be the BEST hosting site for your wedding website. Riley and Grey is what Chase and I are using for our wedding site and I have no doubt you will find value in it as well. Here are a few AMAZING benefits of using Riley and Grey for your own wedding website:
1. Personalized Domain Name. This one isn't so much for the organization sector of the blog, but it is a nice touch that is included when you use Riley and Grey. For instance, when using The Knot, your link will look something like, www.theknot.com/us/heatherandchase/391848 ...or something to that affect, which personally I think is hard to remember. With Riley and Grey, you are given the chance to create something simple and memorable like www.heatherandchase.com.
2. Signature RSVP system. The RSVP system used by Riley and Grey is lively, engaging, and rather practical all the same. This mad-lib style system saves you the money you'd spend on getting your RSVP cards printed and paying for the postage to have them sent back to you from your guests. If you're into being environmental friendly, you're lessening the amount of paper you're using by having the RSVP's digitalized.
3. Guest List + Address Management. For Chase and I, one of the most exciting and useful element about Riley and Grey is the number of valuable tools for Guest Management. Not only do they allow you to input all of your guests names, but they also include space for guest addresses and emails. When creating your guest list, you can then specify which of your special company you'd like to be included in your specific Wedding Events like the rehearsal and rehearsal dinner. You could even use this tool for showers and other parties that come before the weekend of the wedding! By using these features, you're ensuring your VIPs are always in the know and have every bit of information needed leading up to your big day!
4. Travel + Accommodations. I can say with certainty and from experience that none of the other websites I tested were as user friendly in this category as Riley and Grey. With Riley and Grey, you can help out those guests you've invited from out of town by providing them with detailed information on hotels, flights and driving directions. I'm particularly excited about this function since Chase and I have numerous guests coming in from all over the country.
These aren't the only four reasons you need a wedding website when planning your own wedding. And these certainly aren't the only four reasons you need Riley and Grey. I could praise them all day on how wonderful I think their services are but you'll never understand the extent of it until you see it for yourself. Because I believe in the site wholeheartedly, I am sharing a link (below) for you to join me in this wedding website journey! When you use the link I've provided, you will be given a month of FREE goodness!!!!
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And if you're still not convinced, at least do yourself the favor of clicking through the website and have a look at everything else not mentioned here that you may find value in.
"If you fail to plan, plan to fail."
So, what's the best way to ensure your wedding doesn't feel like a disaster? You know now what I am convinced is the answer to this question. Organization and preparation. I'll close by asking you this: Why wouldn't you avert chaos and stress on your wedding day if you have the tools and resources needed? Of course, organization and planning accounts for roughly 92% of your mood on the day of your wedding, but the other 8% is up to you. ;) Staying organized during the most exciting and undoubtedly chaotic time of your life will help you, your friends, your family, and VIPs have a more enjoyable time surrounding the days of saying your "I-do's!" All of this is just to say, I wish you all of the joy and happiness on the day you marry your best friend. And if I could help, even just one person, put in place something that works in allowing peaceful vibes on their wedding day, then I've done what I wanted to do. I hope you're able to put these tips and ideas into place when it comes to planning the wedding of your dreams. If you're an organizer or planner by nature like myself and you have more tips you'd like to share, please do by leaving a comment below! Thanks so much for reading and if you know someone planning their wedding, please share the post with them as it may help them in some way and sharing is caring! ;)